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Have You Ever Asked, “What is My Purpose?”

Have you ever wondered what is your purpose in life? What is the meaning of it all?

One of the main messages I share through my business of public speaking and spiritual coaching processes, and emotional energy work is how to find more meaning in this collective and individual experience we call “Life.”

I had a client recently ask me if I knew what the purpose of my life was, as she was seeking for her own answers. I replied, yes, I do know my purpose, and that I felt it was applicable to everyone universally.

My understanding of “purpose” or “meaning” in life is informed primarily by my 10 years of experience living the life of a monk in a spiritual order where we meditated on average of about 4 1/2 hours each day. However, in my life in the secular world since those ashram/monastery days, I have seen that this understanding works equally well whether you believe in a spiritual notion of a Creator or you do not.

I believe that the universal purpose of Life, applicable to all of us, is to evolve.

If we take a look at the definition of evolve/evolution, it states “the gradual development of something, especially from a simple to a more complex form.” My definition of evolution is “to change for the better.”

We see in the physical world the process of evolution happening over the countless eons; plants, animals and any simple life form moving through the process of genetic mutation to become more complex, or “change for the better,” i.e. adapt to the conditions of the environment to be more functional or more comfortable.

When we overlay a spiritual perspective, we see this evolution gently directed by the invisible hand of our Creator. And we see that the spiritual dimension of evolution expresses primarily through our consciousness. To “change for the better” in our consciousness means to learn to become more connected with our intuitive sensibilities; the “voice of God” within us. It means to become more compassionate, forgiving, loving for the earth and all creatures on it. It means to become more aware and aligned with the natural flow of the Universe, and to act accordingly.

As a result, when we talk about the purpose of life being to evolve, it means on all planes of existence: physical, mental/emotional, and spiritual. When you realize this and begin to act accordingly, you are in alignment with your ultimate purpose.

Now, your interest may be to understand what role you are “supposed” to be playing on this planet. For that, I think that some people are very clear and others are not so clear, or do not have any strong desires to “be” something in particular. The most worthwhile process I have found to understand what role on this planet would fit you best is to examine your passions.

Ask yourself: What am I excited about? What makes me enthusiastic? It is interesting to note that the word enthusiasm comes from the Greek roots en + theos, which in literal translation means “in God.” So when you are enthusiastic, you are “in God,” meaning you are in greater alignment with the Universal Purpose for your life.

For instance, my passions are to see others grow, and to express beauty. For those reasons, I am aligned well with roles on earth that assist others in the process of their own evolution (like a coach and holistic therapist) and roles that bring more beauty into the world (creating visual art and performing music, in my case).

If you are unclear about your passions, or have too many to count, I personally believe that it ultimately doesn’t matter what role you play on the planet as long as whatever you are doing assists you to fulfill the universal purpose stated above. This could be happening whether you are a janitor, or ditch digger, or CEO or President of the USA.

If you want to dive deeper into your passions and purpose, I recommend contacting me ( for a free exploratory conversation on how my spiritual coaching and/or energy sessions using the Transformational Breath(R) process can help you. These are powerful tools to assist you align your energy with the flow of Universal Energy, and as you float down that stream, as the song goes, “merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.”


Express Yo’ Self!

All around the globe (meaning my sphere of interactions), I have been getting the signals, hints and direct advice: express yourself more! 

I KNOW already. And yet there is a part of me that just wants to be invisible. I can be very happy keeping to myself. Afterall, we trained to be “non-entities” in my monastic training. Or can I be happy? Too much isolation starts to make a person funny in the head. Or enlightened. Or both. I am recognizing more and more my need for authentic connection with others. Connection that requires…sharing myself.

I recognize that I felt there was a value to my NOT sharing myself in the past. I remained enigmatic, a mystery. This mystery gave me an advantage…it could throw the other person off balance. But now I realize what it really did was give me a handicap…after a while the other person would get frustrated, bored, or just not have enough information to care…and so they would stop caring. Sharing = Caring. I just came up with that. I am proud of myself.

I have already made a commitment to sharing myself more, and the first understanding that comes from this is just how much resistance I have. Ha. I just caught that same thought from my last post, so I guess it’s not NEW news, just depressing news.

So now, what if I allow myself the space for being depressed about this? To be depressed about the quantity of my resistance to change (for the better, I might add!). What message does this feeling have for me?

It creates enough discomfort that I finally have to move because I can’t take it anymore. In the monastic ashram we would muse “pain is the prod to remembrance (of God)” which is just the “spiritual” way to say “when your ass has been kicked hard enough and long enough, you basically have no other choice but to surrender to your Source.”

The “rub” is that it is all self-created. The depressed-ness that I feel is my self-chosen response to my self-chosen resistance, creating the pain prod me to make me finally break through the resistance to attain my self-chosen desire to express myself more.

Now I am getting heady. But it takes me out of my painful feelings. Escape or Remedy?

I finally realize there is a good “reason” to have stuffed my feelings all these years…because they are painful and unwieldy when they are let loose!

I had my Human Design reading done. It revealed that I am a being that operates from his emotions primarily. That was a real surprise to me, actually. So what does it look like when a person operates from their emotions, but gets no real training in recognizing or beneficially expressing them? When one tries to substitute his brain for his heart with a big override switch, and THINKS that this is his primary mode of expression?

It looks like moodiness; all sorts of incongruent emotions coming out at times that do not match the feelings. For myself as the experiencer, it felt confusing and depressing primarily and those moods would come out when emotion naturally wanted to express, but did not have the recognition from me as the expresser.

Moodiness leads to people requesting to you not to express yourself so much (read: stop bing so moody, you are brining us all down!) which then creates more suppression…that creates more moods….

Which leads me back to the subject of expressing myself more. What I define as learning to get out of my moodiness is the process of learning how to identify and express all the suppressed feeling inside me. This expression is not always pretty and that makes me self-conscious…The mind telling me that my feelings are not valid enough to have their expression.  And that manifests in many ways: procrastination, avoiding forums where expression is expected, criticizing others who express themselves “too much,” …

It is amazing how difficult it is to try to post this…So many rationalizations for it to NOT go public: not interesting enough, too revealing, not revealing enough, (ha! Conflicting rationales), not organized enough, too much rambling, needs to be edited or looked at before it goes live…

However, this is my “making good” on the commitment to the desire to express myself more. So I have created no other choice for myself but to share…